Q “I know bullying is bad, but isn’t it just part of growing up? After all, everyone gets bullied at some point in their childhood. And I heard that a bit of stress is actually good for you.” A You’re right that a bit of stress can be good for you but there are various kinds of stress. Remember the kind of stress that made you study harder for a test, push your limits on the balancing beam, or master that tricky jump rope routine? That’s the good stuff, the kind that helps us learn and grow. But if you’re thinking that bullying isn’t that kind of stress, you’re right! Because bullying is not a normal part of growing up. It’s toxic behavior that we need to address to help our children thrive. Think about it. Being called names in the hallway isn’t the same as the nervous flutter before taking a final exam. Getting tripped in the lunchroom isn’t the same as the focused tension the first time riding a bike without training wheels. Positive stress is occasional, predictable, and under control, such as studying for an exam. Bullying, however, is usually constant, unpredictable, and out of control. It’s like living in a minefield, never knowing when the next explosion will happen. Now, imagine being a kid facing that every day. The pressure to fit in, the fear of being targeted, the feeling of being alone – that’s toxic stress no child should have to deal with. It can lead to anxiety, depression, even physical problems. So, let’s not sugarcoat it. Bullying isn’t healthy stress, it’s harmful and unacceptable., and we need open communication to confront this harmful behavior and create safe school environments where every kid feels safe and supported. Not only that, but did you know that chronic bullying can have a serious impact on your child’s health? Researchers have reported that it is similar to the stress experienced by soldiers at the battlefront! When a child is bullied repeatedly, their body goes into “fight-or-flight” mode, releasing cortisol, a hormone that helps them cope with immediate threats. However, with prolonged bullying, cortisol levels stay elevated, leading to a cascade of negative effects. So keep your eyes open to the following symptoms which may be indicative of a bullying problem, Consequences of Chronic Stress: Signs to Watch For: Be mindful of changes in your child’s mood and physical well-being. These could be indicators of bullying and a cry for help: Imagine a child named Ethan who loved soccer. He used to eagerly practice every day and enjoyed playing with his teammates. However, recently, a group of older kids have been teasing him on the field, calling him names and taking the ball away. Ethan’s stomach starts to hurt before practice, he has trouble sleeping, and his grades have begun to slip. He’s lost interest in soccer, the activity he once loved. These changes in behavior could be signs of bullying and the stress it’s causing him. By recognizing these signs, you can intervene and support your child through this difficult experience. Talk to your child, let them know you’re there for them, and work with the school to address the bullying.
